“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.”
This is from 1 Corinthians, Chapter 13 verses 4-7 and one of my favorites. It always makes me strive to do better with others. I should read it 10 times a day to achieve any progress. I will probably visit this passage often as I blog.
The “love is patient love is kind” part is what seems to be tripping me up lately. Why do I have the smallest amount of patience with the people I am supposed to love the most? And, if I am being totally honest with myself, I am not too good in the rude department either. Excuses used range from I’m having a bad day, it IS true or maybe I am just being too hard on MYSELF! I can justify anything if I work hard enough.
Why can I accept the same behavior from a stranger and be so hard on the people I love? Why do I expect more from them and not hold myself up to the same standards? And, what am I going to do about it? I think acknowledging a behavior that is less than acceptable IN ME is the beginning of change. If I want to live a life that is pleasing to God then I need to focus on my own behavior and not everyone else’s.
My sister reminds me again and again that I cannot hold others to the same standards that I believe. And isn’t example the best teacher? I don’t want to be one of those people that talks a mean talk but can’t walk the walk.
We all have people in our lives that drive us crazy for one reason or another. Sometimes our feelings are even justified but does it show patience and kindness to point it out to them? How important is the issue? If we are not self-seeking and keep no record of wrongs, then isn’t it right to let it go? Isn’t self-seeking our own need to be right, at the expense of someone else?
For me, showing love sometimes is as simple as keeping my mouth shut and moving on. It is not an easy thing to do. It doesn’t mean that I don’t do a lot of grumbling to a trusted confidant. I am far from perfect! Hopefully I will reach a point of loving others that I won’t even notice that they bug me. Wouldn’t that make my world a very peaceful place?
God isn’t finished with me yet, that is for sure!